Hi, I’m Kaier.

I’m glad you found me.

I have one dog, one husband, and (nearly) flawless taste. I enjoy being in the water, practicing Brazilian jiu-jitsu, pizza, and collecting paintings and rugs. My husband calls me Thor because of my relentless hammering home to him that #realchange can only happen by: 1. Being completely honest with oneself, 2. Being curious about exploring one’s feelings, responses, and behaviours, and 3. Having a therapist who not only validates but also gently and compassionately challenges you.

For a long time, I felt unseen and unheard by those who were supposed to love me the most, despite their best intentions. I also believed I was unworthy and unlovable. I’ve felt immense guilt, rage, shame, experienced life-changing losses, extended periods of illness, and likely PTSD and depression. I thought all of it was simply a part of life, until I realised a lot of it, if not all of it, was a response to unprocessed trauma. 

I then made the decision to confront myself fully, especially the parts of myself that I was ashamed of, in an effort to understand who I really am underneath all the stories and beliefs I had about myself. While I’m still in the process of unpeeling my layers—a lifelong effort—I can say with certainty that I am not the same person I was ten years ago when I started this journey.

Anyway, this isn’t the Trauma Olympics, and healing is not a competition. I share this because my experiences have profoundly shaped me and led me to become a therapist. It’s taken me a while to find my voice and purpose, and now that I have, I want to help you rewrite your story on your own terms and heal your relationship with yourself.